Do you love your children? The majority of parents would respond with a resounding yes. A large percentage claim to love their kids unconditionally and want them to know it. But throughout my experience coaching, teaching, and volunteering in schools I have seen too many kids tie their self-worth to individual performance.
Deep down in their hearts, they feel the following pressure:
My parents will love me LESS if I…
- Miss the shot
- Fail this test
- Don’t try my best
- Get caught in a lie
- Wake up in a bad mood
My parents will love me MORE if I…
- Score the most points
- Make good grades
- Have lots of friends
- Obey all the time
- Never fail at anything
Growing up in today’s pressure-to-perform culture, most children feel this way. But you can change it with these simple words.
I love you the same no matter what you do.